Have you ever had one of those days when nothing seems to go right at work? You come to the office before everyone else does. You do all your projects and complete them early. You even stay late to work overtime. But somehow, nothing you do is ever good enough!
You come home exhausted and depressed; and even in your sleep, you dream of work. It is as if you’re stuck in a nightmare and you can’t get out.
A Day In The Life of Anna
Anna, a 31-year old HR Manager, often experiences this problem. She works for a huge private company. She receives great employee benefits and she earns pretty well. In spite of these perks, she still gets stressed out. Her stress levels are so high that she tends to lash out on her family and friends. She no longer spends time with them and is becoming more and more distant.
Everyday, she wakes up at 4 AM to get ready for work. She has to leave the house early to avoid getting stuck in traffic. Things are busy around the office, and more often than not, she stays behind to do even more work. She usually leaves the office at 10 PM and gets home around 11 PM or midnight if the traffic is unbearable.
There are days when Anna even has to come to work on the weekends because her boss tells her so. Anna is quite close to having a nervous breakdown. She has contemplated many times whether she should leave her job. However, she is also the breadwinner of her family and she has younger siblings she sends to school.
If she quits her job, who knows how long she would be unemployed?
Unhappiness at Work
If you see yourself in Anna, you’re not alone. According to a recent article from Forbes, 42% of employees switched jobs because of work-related stress.
And that stress often comes from a manager or supervisor. In a 900-person survey by Monster.com, they shared that 40% of people claimed their boss was the main cause of their workplace stress.
Should you stay or should you leave?
Well if you really can’t take it anymore then the best thing to do is leave. When you do though, you need to make sure that you’re prepared for all the consequences. If you choose to stay instead, then you’ll need to make some changes.
Remember that what you allow to happen will continue to happen. So, if you do not like the way your boss treats you at work, you need to gather your courage and face the problem head on.
Effective Ways of Dealing with a Difficult Boss
Determine the prime motivations of your boss.
When you understand your boss better, it becomes easier for you to give him what he wants. Try to put yourself in his shoes and find out what his expectations are and what results he prefers. This way, you can communicate with him in the same way that he does. You will also be able to align your priorities, core values, and concerns with his.
Support your boss in his or her success.
You may hate your boss’ guts. Then again, you have to remember that making him look bad in front of other people will not do you any good. In fact, things can even turn for the worse if you try to sabotage his presentation or badmouth him to clients. If you expose his incompetence, you can also damage your own reputation in return.
So, you should just help your boss focus on his strengths and work around his weaknesses. For instance, if your boss has poor organizational and time management skills, you can help him manage his schedule. If your boss is forgetful, you can offer to take note of his meetings and give him reminders.
You should make yourself reliable and indispensable. This way, you will be able to build a solid foundation for your success.
Choose to take the high road.
You should not let the bad behavior of your boss affect your productivity and work ethic. Don’t slack off or submit mediocre projects because you want to defy your boss. No matter how bad your boss is, you should still be your best self. Do not let his bad traits rub off on you.
Stay productive and professional. Keep your integrity in tact so that you won’t be branded a slacker or whiner. If your issues with your boss persist, you should follow legal procedures if you can’t talk to him about it directly. You can even file a complaint against him at the Human Resources office.
After weighing the pros and cons, Anna decided to stay at her job. After all, she has to put food on the table and pay bills. But the good thing is she chose to do things differently this time. Instead of being passive, she applied the strategies above in her own professional life. Soon her work life became easier and her personal life improved.
Do Not Be A Quitter!
So, you should not give up just yet. It’s not good to be a quitter, unless it is your sole option. Choose your battles wisely. If you can still fix the problem, then you should go ahead and fix it. Running away from the problem will not do you any good. You may have gotten away from your boss now, but what if your next boss has the same attitude?
Thus, you should keep your cool and find ways to deal with your difficult boss. Use these strategies to solve your problem. Don’t suffer in silence or run away from it!
How about you, do you have any tips for dealing with a difficult boss? Share them in the comments below.